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Tuesday, June 11, 2013

How to keep an English conversation going

Sounding fluent and confident in a few words

Here are some useful ways to keep the conversation going. The "secret" is that you don't actually need many words to do this!

1. Show interest in the other speaker
You don't need to say much. Often just one word is needed to show you are interested and listening. Try "Really?" (with a rising intonation), "Right" or "Sure". You could even show you are listening with a non-word such as "Mmm" or Uh-huh".
"I hate watching rubbish on the TV."
"Right."

2. Use a short phrase to show your feelings
For example, "How awful", "Oh no!", "You're joking", "What a pity" etc.
"My neighbour had a car accident yesterday."
"Oh no!"
"Yes, but thankfully he wasn't hurt."
"Mmm."

3. Ask a short question 
You can use an auxiliary verb to make a short question which will encourage the other speaker to keep talking:
"We tried out the new Chinese restaurant last night."
"Did you?"
"I'm going to Barbados next week on holiday."
"Are you? Lucky you!"
"It's snowing again."
"Is it?"

4. Repeat what the other person said
Do this especially if the other person has said something surprising.
"He won £200 on the lottery."
"£200!"
"I'm going to Barbados next week."
"Barbados!"

Other ways to avoid silence

Here are some more tips to help you say something – even if you haven't understood the other person or there's nothing else to say.

If you don't understand
"Sorry, I don't understand."
"Sorry, could you repeat that?"
"Sorry? I didn't get that."

If you don't know the word
"I can't find the word I'm looking for…"
"I'm not sure that this is the right word, but…"
"What I want to say is…"

If you can't find the word immediately
You don't want to be completely silent, but you need time to find the words.
"Well…"
"OK…"
"So…"
You can even make some "noises"
"Hmmm…"
"Uh-huh"
"Umm…"

Agreeing with the other person
You want to show that you agree, but you don't have anything else to say.
"Yeah."
"Right."

Changing the subject
Everyone in the conversation has given an opinion, and now you want to talk about something else.
"Anyway,…"
"Well, as I was saying…"
"So, back to …"
"So, we were saying …"

Rephrase

Sometimes we say things that other people don't understand, or we give the wrong impression. Here are some expressions you can use to say something again.

"What I meant to say was…"
"Let me rephrase that…"
"Let me put this another way…"
"Perhaps I'm not making myself clear…"

Go back to the beginning
If you're explaining something, and you realise that the other person doesn't understand, you can use the following phrases:
"If we go back to the beginning…"
"The basic idea is…"
"One way of looking at it is…"
"Another way of looking at it is…"

Monday, June 10, 2013

How to Improve Your Memory

Improving memory tip 1: Don't skimp on exercise or sleep

Just as an athlete relies on sleep and a nutrition-packed diet to perform his or her best, your ability to remember increases when you nurture your brain with a good diet and other healthy habits.

When you exercise the body, you exercise the brain

Treating your body well can enhance your ability to process and recall information. Physical exerciseincreases oxygen to your brain and reduces the risk for disorders that lead to memory loss, such as diabetes and cardiovascular disease. Exercise may also enhance the effects of helpful brain chemicals and protect brain cells.

Improve your memory by sleeping on it

When you’re sleep deprived, your brain can’t operate at full capacity. Creativity, problem-solving abilities, and critical thinking skills are compromised. Whether you’re studying, working, or trying to juggle life’s many demands, sleep deprivation is a recipe for disaster.
But sleep is critical to learning and memory in an even more fundamental way. Research shows that sleepis necessary for memory consolidation, with the key memory-enhancing activity occurring during the deepest stages of sleep.

Improving memory tip 2: Make time for friends and fun

When you think of ways to improve memory, do you think of “serious” activities such as wrestling with the New York Times crossword puzzle or mastering chess strategy, or do more lighthearted pastimes—hanging out with friends or enjoying a funny movie—come to mind? If you’re like most of us, it’s probably the former. But countless studies show that a life that’s full of friends and fun comes with cognitive benefits.

Healthy relationships: the ultimate memory booster?

Humans are highly social animals. We’re not meant to survive, let alone thrive, in isolation. Relationships stimulate our brains—in fact, interacting with others may be the best kind of brain exercise.
Research shows that having meaningful relationships and a strong support system are vital not only to emotional health, but also to brain health. In one recent study from the Harvard School of Public Health, for example, researchers found that people with the most active social lives had the slowest rate of memory decline.
There are many ways to start taking advantage of the brain and memory-boosting benefits of socializing. Volunteer, join a club, make it a point to see friends more often, or reach out over the phone. And if a human isn’t handy, don’t overlook the value of a pet—especially the highly-social dog.

Laughter is good for your brain

You’ve heard that laughter is the best medicine, and that holds true for the brain as well as the body. Unlike emotional responses, which are limited to specific areas of the brain, laughter engages multiple regions across the whole brain.
Furthermore, listening to jokes and working out punch lines activates areas of the brain vital to learning and creativity. As psychologist Daniel Goleman notes in his book Emotional Intelligence, “laughter…seems to help people think more broadly and associate more freely.”
Looking for ways to bring more laughter in your life? Start with these basics:
  • Laugh at yourself. Share your embarrassing moments. The best way to take ourselves less seriously is to talk about the times when we took ourselves too seriously.
  • When you hear laughter, move toward it. Most of the time, people are very happy to share something funny because it gives them an opportunity to laugh again and feed off the humor you find in it. When you hear laughter, seek it out and ask, “What’s funny?”
  • Spend time with fun, playful people. These are people who laugh easily–both at themselves and at life’s absurdities–and who routinely find the humor in everyday events. Their playful point of view and laughter are contagious.
  • Surround yourself with reminders to lighten up. Keep a toy on your desk or in your car. Put up a funny poster in your office. Choose a computer screensaver that makes you laugh. Frame photos of you and your family or friends having fun.
  • Pay attention to children and emulate them. They are the experts on playing, taking life lightly, and laughing.

Improving memory tip 3: Keep stress in check

Stress is one of the brain’s worst enemies. Over time, if left unchecked, chronic stress destroys brain cells and damages the hippocampus, the region of the brain involved in the formation of new memories and the retrieval of old ones.

The stress-busting, brain-boosting benefits of meditation

Get depression in check

Get Depression in Check
In addition to stress, depression takes a heavy toll on the brain. In fact, some of the symptoms of depression include difficulty concentrating, making decisions, and remembering things. If you are mentally sluggish because of depression, seeking treatment will make a big difference in your cognitive abilities, including memory.
Keep Stress in Check
The scientific evidence for the mental health benefits of meditation continues to pile up. Studies show that meditation helps improve many different types of conditions, including depression, anxiety, chronic pain, diabetes, and high blood pressure. Meditation also can improve focus, concentration, creativity, and learning and reasoning skills.
Meditation works its “magic” by changing the actual brain. Brain images show that regular meditators have more activity in the left prefrontal cortex, an area of the brain associated with feelings of joy and equanimity. Meditation also increases the thickness of the cerebral cortex and encourages more connections between brain cells—all of which increases mental sharpness and memory ability.

Improving memory tip 4: Eat a brain-boosting diet

Just as the body needs fuel, so does the brain. You probably already know that a diet based on fruits, vegetables, whole grains, “healthy” fats (such as olive oil, avacados, nuts, fish) and lean protein will provide lots of health benefits, but such a diet can also improve memory. But for brain health, it’s not just what you eat—it’s also what you don’t eat. The following nutritional tips will help boost your brainpower and reduce your risk of dementia:
  • Get your omega-3s. More and more evidence indicates that omega-3 fatty acids are particularly beneficial for brain health. Fish is a particularly rich source of omega-3, especially cold water “fatty fish” such as salmon, tuna, halibut, trout, mackerel, sardines, and herring. In addition to boosting brainpower, eating fish may also lower your risk of developing Alzheimer’s disease. If you’re not a fan of seafood, consider non-fish sources of omega-3s such as walnuts, ground flaxseed, flaxseed oil, winter squash, kidney and pinto beans, spinach, broccoli, pumpkin seeds, and soybeans.
  • Limit calories and saturated fat. Research shows that diets high in saturated fat (from sources such as red meat, whole milk, butter, cheese, sour cream, and ice cream) increase your risk of dementia and impair concentration and memory. Eating too many calories in later life can also increase your risk of cognitive impairment. Talk to your doctor or dietician about developing ahealthy eating plan.
  • Eat more fruit and vegetables. Produce is packed with antioxidants, substances that protect your brain cells from damage. Colorful fruits and vegetables are particularly good antioxidant "superfood" sources. Try leafy green vegetables such as spinach, broccoli, romaine lettuce, Swiss chard, and arugula, and fruit such as apricots, mangoes, cantaloupe, and watermelon.
  • Drink green tea. Green tea contains polyphenols, powerful antioxidants that protect against free radicals that can damage brain cells. Among many other benefits, regular consumption of green tea may enhance memory and mental alertness and slow brain aging.
  • Drink wine (or grape juice) in moderation. Keeping your alcohol consumption in check is key, since alcohol kills brain cells. But in moderation (around 1 glass a day for women; 2 for men), alcohol may actually improve memory and cognition. Red wine appears to be the best option, as it is rich in resveratrol, a flavonoid that boosts blood flow in the brain and reduces the risk of Alzheimer’s disease. Other resveratrol-packed options include grape juice, cranberry juice, fresh grapes and berries, and peanuts.

For mental energy, choose complex carbohydrates.

Just as a racecar needs gas, your brain needs fuel to perform at its best. When you need to be at the top of your mental game, carbohydrates can keep you going. But the type of carbs you choose makes all the difference. Carbohydrates fuel your brain, but simple carbs (sugar, white bread, refined grains) give a quick boost followed by an equally rapid crash. There is also evidence to suggest that diets high in simple carbs can greatly increase the risk for cognitive impairment in older adults. For healthy energy that lasts, choose complex carbohydrates such as whole-wheat bread, brown rice, oatmeal, high-fiber cereal, lentils, and whole beans. Avoid processed foods and limit starches (potato, pasta, rice) to no more than one quarter of your plate.

Improving memory tip 5: Give your brain a workout

By the time you’ve reached adulthood, your brain has developed millions of neural pathways that help you process information quickly, solve familiar problems, and execute familiar tasks with a minimum of mental effort. But if you always stick to these well-worn paths, you aren’t giving your brain the stimulation it needs to keep growing and developing. You have to shake things up from time to time!
Memory, like muscular strength, requires you to “use it or lose it.” The more you work out your brain, the better you’ll be able to process and remember information. The best brain exercising activities break your routine and challenge you to use and develop new brain pathways. The activity can be virtually anything, so long as it meets the following three criteria:
  1. It’s new. No matter how intellectually demanding the activity, if it’s something you’re already good at, it’s not a good brain exercise. The activity needs to be something that’s unfamiliar and out of your comfort zone.
  2. It’s challenging. Anything that takes some mental effort and expands your knowledge will work. Examples include learning a new language, instrument, or sport, or tackling a challenging crossword or Sudoku puzzle.
  3. It’s fun. Physical and emotional enjoyment is important in the brain’s learning process. The more interested and engaged you are in the activity, the more likely you’ll be to continue doing it and the greater the benefits you’ll experience. The activity should be challenging, yes, it should also be something that is fun and enjoyable to you. Make an activity more pleasurable by appealing to your senses—playing music while you do it, or rewarding yourself afterwards with a favorite treat, for example.

Use mnemonic devices to make memorization easier

Mnemonics (the initial “m” is silent) are clues of any kind that help us remember something, usually by helping us associate the information we want to remember with a visual image, a sentence, or a word.
Mnemonic deviceExample
Visual image - Associate a visual image with a word or name to help you remember them better. Positive, pleasant images that are vivid, colorful, and three-dimensional will be easier to remember.
To remember the name Rosa Parks and what she’s known for, picture a woman sitting on a park bench surrounded by roses, waiting as her bus pulls up.
Acrostic (or sentence) - Make up a sentence in which the first letter of each word is part of or represents the initial of what you want to remember.
The sentence “Every good boy does fine” to memorize the lines of the treble clef, representing the notes E, G, B, D, and F.
Acronym - An acronym is a word that is made up by taking the first letters of all the key words or ideas you need to remember and creating a new word out of them.
The word “HOMES” to remember the names of the Great Lakes: Huron, Ontario, Michigan, Erie, and Superior.
Rhymes and alliteration - Rhymes, alliteration (a repeating sound or syllable), and even jokes are a memorable way to remember more mundane facts and figures.
The rhyme “Thirty days hath September, April, June, and November” to remember the months of the year with only 30 days in them.
Chunking - Chunking breaks a long list of numbers or other types of information into smaller, more manageable chunks.
Remembering a 10-digit phone number by breaking it down into three sets of numbers: 555-867-5309 (as opposed to5558675309).
Method of loci - Imagine placing the items you want to remember along a route you know well or in specific locations in a familiar room or building.
For a shopping list, imagine bananas in the entryway to your home, a puddle of milk in the middle of the sofa, eggs going up the stairs, and bread on your bed.

Tips for enhancing your ability to learn and remember

  • Pay attention. You can’t remember something if you never learned it, and you can’t learn something—that is, encode it into your brain—if you don’t pay enough attention to it. It takes about eight seconds of intense focus to process a piece of information into your memory. If you’re easily distracted, pick a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted.
  • Involve as many senses as possible. Try to relate information to colors, textures, smells, and tastes. The physical act of rewriting information can help imprint it onto your brain. Even if you’re a visual learner, read out loud what you want to remember. If you can recite it rhythmically, even better.
  • Relate information to what you already know. Connect new data to information you already remember, whether it’s new material that builds on previous knowledge, or something as simple as an address of someone who lives on a street where you already know someone.
  • For more complex material, focus on understanding basic ideas rather than memorizing isolated details. Practice explaining the ideas to someone else in your own words.
  • Rehearse information you’ve already learned. Review what you’ve learned the same day you learn it, and at intervals thereafter. This “spaced rehearsal” is more effective than cramming, especially for retaining what you’ve learned.

Sunday, June 9, 2013

Five tips for learning to speak English like an American

1. Record Your Own Voice:  If you don’t already have a smartphone with a voice notes feature, buy a cheap MP3 player with a voice recorder. Read articles out loud out to yourself from an online newspaper or anything else you can get your hands and record your voice. Play it back and listen to yourself: can you understand what the hell you’re talking about? Hang in there! You have to straighten this language barrier out sooner or later if you’re serious about it. This practice can go on for months. It all depends upon how you move your jaw muscles, lips and tongue.
2. Mastering the American Accent with Audio CDs: This combination book and audio instructional program is designed to diminish the accents of men and women who speak English as their second language. It will help them speak standard American English with clarity, confidence, and accuracy. Specific exercises concentrate on vowel sounds, problematic consonants such as V, W, B, TH, and the American R, as well as how to employ correct syllable stress, link words for smoother speech flow, use common word contractions such as won’t instead of will not, and more.
3. McGraw-Hill’s American Idioms Dictionary: I dug and dug until I found this dictionary. It’s got all the stuff that Americans actually say. If you’re having difficulty understanding expressions in everyday speech, you need a comprehensive reference for idioms, common phrases, and sayings of American English. This is it! Also, read online American newspapers and you will notice journalism is completely different from other countries. The language of the American newspaper is very descriptive and you will be addicted to it once you start reading.
4. Intonation: In the end, this is the hardest thing to learn. Observe people around you when they talk; the way the pitch of their voice changes and certain kinds of body language. If you’re from another country, you will be tempted to bring in intonation and body language from your native language and listeners will not be able to understand you. To get rid of this, watch American movies and TV and listen to radio a lot.
5. Make American friends:  You will be tempted to hang out more with friends from your home country. Don’t! You need to spend more time with American friends to improve upon your English. It won’t be easy because of the language barrier and culture differences, but just take your time, smile, be friendly and relax. You will find folks who would love to speak with you.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Tips for Better Understanding

1. Pretend you are the only source of wisdom to you and your readers.
Start writing and something will flow.  I start with 10 Tips on XXX , put number one sown and expect an insight or statement on the topic to follow.  And it always does.  I don’t stop until I get ten.  I even pretend I am squeezing toothpaste (insight) out of the tube and I’m not stopping until all is squeezed out.
2. Seek for insight in unusual places.
Listen to life: its mistakes, its appreciation, its lessons, its overcoming, other’s problems that no longer effect youanything is a candidate to develop a set of tips.  Ponder, consider, incubate, mull over, Isolate all else, lean on it.   You will amaze yourself at what comes out.
3. Hold the insight up and view it from many angles.
What it is, what it isn’t, what is different about it, interesting about it … The more variety, the more dimension and depth it has.  Consider passing thought as two-dimensional and 10 Tip as three-dimensional thinking.
4. Absorb what you hear and make it personally yours.
You don’t have to have all the insight.  You can borrow from others, filter it through your experience and it becomes uniquely yours.
5. Express the insight in relation to its impact on you.
Did you receive a ‘bump’ in life?  It’s a great material to explore its effect on you.  Don’t waste it!
6. Imagine what you have to say has benefit to fifty others needing the same insight.
Without your synopsis, your wisdom, someone will definitely be
lacking.  Try to make your reader think deeper.
7. Distribute/Broadcast it so many can gain.
I have a spiritual elist, think-geek elist, and improvement elist.  It’s amazing; the more audiences I have, the more application I can give to the same thought.
8. Save it as reminder of a progress made, of help offered, of life changed.
Imagine reflecting on past thought that was generated in a season of life.  This is truly tips to yourself, and if shared with others, benefit to untold others.
9. Allow one insight beget another. It both stretches your creativity and places your innovative mind in perpetual motion.
Like one electron exciting another.  You will be amazed as the insights grow in diversity and depth.
10. Use 10 Tips to excavate insight of movies that impact you.
Listen the first time for enjoyment, the second time for insight.  With pen in hand get ready to capture life’s pointers from the movie.  My favorites:  “Remember the Titans” (team), Instinct (control), I Am Sam (pure love), K-Pax (different)

Monday, June 3, 2013

Manglish? Singlish?

Malaysia English(Manglish) and Singapore English(Singlish) are some sort of the unofficial “national language” for both Malaysia and Singapore. But what is the difference? Citizens of both countries often fought and claim as which are rightfully theirs but can anyone make a difference? I can’t but there are several differences that I had observed from watching Singaporean shows, radios, Youtubes and bla bla bla. I compared my observations with the Manglish spoken here in Malaysia and I think I made quite a few interesting comparisons.

Manglish
Ok. This is some sort of a Manglish lesson for those who didn’t know. Some might claim they speak perfect English but little do they know, at times they are speaking Manglish instead of English. Due to the multiracial environment we lived in, our supposedly British English had interracial group sex with other languages, that result in unwanted birth of several terms only used in Malaysia. These are the following words.
Outstation
Used to refer “working out of town”. Seriously, many had watched Western shows or movies but had you guys heard them using this word? Or do they use out of town?
Mee
Noodles. Trust me. There are a lot of people who think mee is a standard English word due to the contribution from Maggie Mee
MC
People always refer taking a sick leave as MC but not much people know exactly what is it. It is a short form for Medical Certificate and now many had regard it as a word itself.
Slippers
Ok. I admit. I do not know that this is a Malaysian English word either. Apparently, Westerners refer them as flip-flops. I thought one is British English and another is American English. LOL.
Handphone
Probably one of the newest term around compare to the rest but definitely one of the most misunderstood and frequently used word. Westerners often refer them as cell phone as a short form for cellular phone or mobile phone. We? Easy la. Can use hand carry everywhere then just call it as handphone lo.
So how many exactly of you are not aware that those words above are only used in Malaysia and Singapore and not America or England? There are a lot more but those are the few common ones. Even “OK” is just a short form for OKAY but many thought that that’s the actual spelling. These words are not only exclusive for Manglish as Singlish also contains them. The origin of those words are still unknown to me.
How does Manglish and Singlish came about?
Apparently, the Singapore government branded those broken English used by Singaporean as Singlish in order to make them learn proper English. Then, the Malaysian Government follow suit and branded our rojak English as Manglish in order for us to realize that and start to proper English. However, their efforts apparently FAIL big timebecause now citizens of both countries proudly declare that as their culture. Talk about backfired attempt.

The “Lah” Word
The “Lah” word is apparently the Holy Grail of Manglish and Singlish. It is so frequently used that the Oxford Dictionary featured it. Malaysian and Singaporean are so proud of it, they always claimed it as theirs. Trust me. I’ve heard Malaysians telling to a Caucasian that “You will know that a person is a Malaysian and speaks Manglish when he or she uses the word Lah at the end of their sentences.” I bet the same thing is happening in Singapore.
Some sources said that this word is derived from the Chinese language. One of the main reason is the Chinese is using this more frequently than other races. However, I support the other source which claimed that this is of the Malay word origin rather than Chinese. We learned that the word “lah” is used in Malay language to exaggerate a message. This is the example.
Jangan bising – Please be quiet
Jangan bising lah – The frustration in this statement is much more apparent than the previous one. If you do not know Bahasa Malaysia then you just don’t get it.

What are the differences I notice?
For both Manglish and Singlish, the sentence’s structure is almost the same. The most obvious difference I notice is the slang. Manglish is pronounced with a mixture of Malay language slang in it while Singlish is pronounced with a mixture of Hokkien or Mandarin slang in it. Probably because we learned the Malay language in our primary school. Singlish had many mixture of the Hokkien language such as “liao”, “nia”, “sueh” and bla bla bla. Manglish uses much more Malay words such as “kena”, “mati”, and bla bla bla.
If you listen carefully, you will notice that most Singaporeans can pronounce their English words much more accurate than Malaysians. Not true for all. In Kuala Lumpur, the youth there could speak with a hint of American accent mixture in it. Which is the pronunciation of “R” is much more apparent. Singlish tend to be much more laid back and with a much obvious Chinese accent in it. I’m not referring to those dumb accents often made by Westerners to label us Chinese. It’s difficult to observe but the difference is there.
Another difference is the words used in their speech. Not much people are aware of this but Singlish uses more Hokkien or Mandarin words while Manglish uses more Malay words or their own words. These are the few examples.
Referring to a hot girl.
Manglish: WahThat girl damn cun la.
Singlish: WahThat girl damn sui la.
Cun is another word only used around here which I think is derived from the Malay language.
Referring to something awesome.
Manglish: Wah lauYou are very terrer la.
Singlish: Wah lau..You are sibeh kao lat la.